Access Point: Control
"Pain, stress, and frustration come from trying to control things that are uncontrollable, change things that are unchangeable, and develop people who are fighting diligently to stay the way they are."
- James McPartland
When you are unhappy, you are often thinking about something you cannot possibly control. When you focus on things that you have no power to change, you experience frustration, exasperation, and disappointment.
A genius moment arrives when you have the realization that you are trying to control the uncontrollable and the feeling of defeat that goes with it.
Along with considering what it is that you’re trying to change, it is worth looking at who it is that you’re trying to change. You may well find that the person who is actually most resistant to change is the one looking back at you in the mirror. When you let go of trying to control the uncontrollable and shift your focus to yourself, rather than trying to change other people, a new space of creativity, energy, and aliveness opens up inside of you.