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Access Point: Letting Go

“A genius moment arrives when we come to realize we are trying to control the uncontrollable in order to avoid the feeling of defeat that comes with it.”

- James McPartland

Access Point: Price to Pay | Blog post by James McPartland | Speaker, Author, Executive Coach

When we are unhappy, we are often thinking about something we cannot possibly control. When we focus on things that we have no power to change, we experience frustration, exasperation, and disappointment.


Pain, stress, and frustration come from trying to control things that are uncontrollable, change things that are unchangeable, and develop people who are fighting diligently to stay the way they are. A genius moment arrives when we have the realization that we are trying to control the uncontrollable and the feeling of defeat that goes with it.


Along with considering what it is that you’re trying to change, it is worth looking at WHO it is that you’re trying to change. You may find that the person most resistant to change is the one looking back at you in the mirror.


When you let go of trying to control the uncontrollable and shift your focus to yourself (rather than trying to change other people), a new space of creativity, energy, and aliveness will open up inside of you.