- James McPartland
Access Point: Are We Willing to Change?
"A willingness to change is different from knowing how to even wanting to. Being willing is simply letting go of both control and the illusion that we are safe and secure when we avoid the unknown."
- James K. McPartland
Ask yourself: Am I willing to change?
We may think of an area in our life and not want to (but know that we need to). We may not know how to (but know that if we seek, we can find a way). When we are truly ready for change, we are willing to head into the pain of the unknown... often because the pain of what we know has become too great to remain the same.
And yet sometimes, we tell ourselves we're willing, but then hold onto control of something we know we need to let go of. When we do this, we are more than likely creating an excuse.
Excuses provide temporary relief from our denial with regard to where we have not yet faced our real need for change (or it just hasn't become painful enough to motivate us). Yet if we do not deal with our own resistance, we stay stuck, living the same life we say we don't want to live.
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
The time is now. This is the moment to be honest with ourselves, analyzing the areas of life where we are more committed to staying the way we are than to do the work of accessing the perspective shift that change requires.
So ask yourself again: Am I really willing to change?
If so, what are you going to do about it? What's next, friend?
Just a thought to ponder...