"Resist the temptation to kill the messenger. Simply receive the message."
- James K. McPartland
We are surrounded by teachers, and each day they arrive to see if we have learned the lesson they have brought to us.
Often, the gift of life lessons shows up in the form of our own resistance, a conflict, a disagreement, or having an uneasy feeling about something or someone. When we react to avoid the discomfort, we move from presence to pretense, an inauthentic place for us to be. We no more can blame the mailman for delivering an overdue bill than we can blame the mirror for the reflection it provides to us.
Acceptance is a key step to living a transformed life. The mental attitude of allowing people and things to be just as they are (and for that matter, just as they are not), is a genuine sign we have learned to rely on ourselves.
When something or someone arrives in your life that triggers you, ask yourself two empowering questions:
"What is good about this?"
"What else could this mean?"
Asking yourself these questions creates space for us all to embrace the messenger when we don't like what's being said, providing empowering meanings and a plethora of life lessons that can ultimately be used as a force for good in our lives.
It is a simple practice, though not easy. But if you will build the habit, a perspective shift will be just on the horizon.