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Access Points <Quote #30>

Access Point <Mirror Mirror>

"Access to high quality life experiences is available to each of us when we unconditionally give ourselves the love we seek from others."

- James K. McPartland

I believe that all of us want to know that we are loved, that we measure up, and that we make a difference. It is as if we each have a flashing sign on our forehead that reads "validate me". Further, I believe we hold that external validation at a higher level of importance than any affirmation we might give unto ourselves.

I tend to adhere to the notion that we get what we give to others, however, I subscribe to the philosophy that one can not give away that which they do not own. And, if love is at the core of our fundamental human needs, we must learn to love ourself first. Put another way, it is difficult to accept a gift that we do not feel worthy of receiving.

How can we enjoy the love of another if we are truly unable to accept it? How can we give it if we do not possess it? At times in life I believe it is vital to be selfish - and this is one of those times. Take care of you, nurture and love yourself, and use the mirror to validate you for the amazing and "gifted" soul that you are. After a while you will be giving more love and validation away, accepting more in return, and sometimes finding that it may just be you -and the person in the mirror- having that magical present moment experience.

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