Access Points <Quote #64>
Access Point <Filling the Void>
“When we judge another person we are compensating for an internal void that we were silently hoping they would fill.”
- James K. McPartland
You know you have a hole to plug when you find yourself feeling hurt -or creating meaning- around someone else's words or actions. While we cannot control the language or behavior of another person, we can control our reactions and how our "meaning making machine" interprets behavior and language. The key is to override our internal sense that "we are not enough" by how we feel without the love or validation of others.
Each time you give someone the power to build you up with praise, you’re also unknowingly giving that person the power to destroy you with criticism. You are enough, the life journey you are on has led you to this exact point in time. The setbacks have been the "gifts" for they have provided the greatest of life's lessons - if you have allowed them to. Everyone is on a path of discovery, however some are focused on survival and one is neither able to heal nor to grow when they are in survival mode. Do not put down another when they do not validate you as - you never know - they may be waiting for you to validate them.