“The mind can be like a rough neighborhood. It is often best not to go in alone, and to know the escape routes if you get trapped inside." James K. McPartland
A coach, mentor, advisor, colleague, or friend are the type of resources that can help us to get unstuck when we get caught inside of our own stories. Any combination of these people can help us to discover for ourselves what we could not uncover by ourselves. A "go to" person can ask the types of questions that, when answered, provide a clear path if we get stuck inside an unhealthy mindset.
Research states that we each have 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, over 90% of those thoughts are the same thoughts that we had yesterday, and almost 80% are negative. The odds of us navigating through this familiar neighborhood without getting stuck in a set of familiar thoughts is extremely low. With 95% of our thinking being subconscious (unconscious) and habitual, we are not aware we are trapped until someone we trust comes by to talk us out of the neighborhood. Setting ourselves up with “go to” people: accountability buddies, advisors, coaches, or a trusted friend, can help us go through the rough neighborhoods with the least likelihood of being hurt as we work our way through and come out the other side.